Why did God make sex pleasurable? Logically speaking, humans would probably not pursue intimacy and pregnancy as much if ecstasy was not part of the experience. As a species we are almost always motivated by two basic things, pain or gain- to end suffering or to experience pleasure. What can the Christian or the skeptic conclude? God did what He had to so we would populate the earth and prevent extinction? Or even more suspicious- that the natural selection process somehow injected “mojo” into mammals through adaptation so that the many species would not forget to evolve?
This post is the third and last part of a series on God’s Hope for Sex that I started eight months ago. It is long overdue because I really struggled to explain the ecstasy part of sex. But yesterday it occurred to me what God hopes for.
From the very beginning God had something in mind for men and women. In Genesis 2:18 He said “It’s not good for man to be alone.” It seems God cares whether humans suffer or have pleasure in this world. We could point out God’s hope for intimacy here but the verse points to something beyond human interest. First, let’s get Adam’s perspective on this. When Adam woke up from rib surgery he said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
In the next verse God thought it important to highlight the honeymoon “Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.”
In the story it does not say that Adam complained to God about being alone or that he was excited to share Eden with this new creature. The story does reveal how God felt about it all and it gives insight to God’s hope for sex. God saw that it was not good for man to be alone. In other words, God was not pleased to see His creation without a companion. It pleased God to join a woman and a man, to put them together naked. (Among you Fathers out there, who would let your daughter’s boyfriend come over to your house and let the two of them hang out together in your back yard naked? Uh yeah- not gonna happen.) But this pleased God.
God delights in our sex. “God saw all that He had made and it was very good.”- Genesis 1:31
If this sounds creepy or awkward to you it’s probably because our understanding of sex is so warped and perverted. As humans we have sex with people only for the ecstasy experience. People “hook up” not for intimacy or pregnancy, but for one purpose only, orgasmic pleasure. Who, when ordering a burger at Burger King says, “I’ll have a Whopper but hold the lettuce, tomato, onion, and bread? Just give me the beef patty.” That’s our experience of sex when we lust after each other’s bodies and ravage each other like carnivores. That’s what dogs do.
God intended a “Whopper,” when it came to sex. He intended the whole experience filled with intimacy and ecstasy to result in pregnancy. God intends extreme pleasure in sex! It is His pleasure that we delight in this intimate experience. When talking about His son Jesus Christ he said, “For God was pleased to have all his fullness dwell in him.” God’s greatest pleasure is in His son. They are one. Their relationship is better than any human sex. And this is what God hopes for with us, that we would be one with His son, and one with Him. Our greatest pleasure in life will be intimacy with God. We are the “bride of Christ” after all. Physical sex is only a glimpse of the ecstasy we can experience in unity with God.
Most people think God made sex for us. Sex is for God, for His pleasure and for His pleasure to be experienced by us. His pleasure! But when we go into sex only for our pleasure, or even for our partners pleasure, sex loses it’s meaning, its joy, it’s love.
Forgive me God for my perversion, for believing what Hollywood teaches me about love and how to have sex. I long for the magnificent experience of indulging in your pleasure. May your pleasure be my greatest joy.